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Akshay · Joined: 12 Feb 2011 Posts: 14

Dear Rachel,

I am at a very bad place in life at the moment and feel so depressed and helpless.

I was married for 10 years and have 3 children with my wife. We have been divorced for 7 years now and only in the last 2 to 3 years have we become friendly enough to share time together and talk about the good times.

I thought things were getting okay and we will be able to work it out and get back together. However recently I found out that she is pregnant and my world has fallen apart. She is not in love with the father and regards it as a mistake but she is adamant she will keep the baby.

I have said I will be there for her no matter what and will accept the child. I want her to take me back but she is not sure. The other guy wants her to accept him or get rid of the baby.

I love her very much but will she take me back or will she accept the other guy? Will I be able to love another man's child?

Please help me Rachel. I know you are busy and really appreciate what you do out of the kindness of your heart.

Thanks,

Akshay

RachelMcLeod · Posted: Sun Oct 21, 2012 11:08 pm Post subject: Reply from Rachel

Hello,

Sorry if this is a bit late. I have been tied up with class work and teaching classes.

Your situation is unique but not so foreign to many individuals. The important aspect of the situations seems to be the decisions your ex-wife must make for herself and the baby she may bring into the world. No one can force her choices for her. She must decide as it is her body, her pregnancy, and her life that will be invested and affected by this situation. That being said, you can offer your support and if she needs it, she will know that you can be there to offer it. But respect her personal boundaries and spaces. Stay on the high moral ground and simply let her know that your door is open and your assistance is available.

At her stage of life right now, relationships and emotional commitments will be complicated and challenging. She has to find herself and has much work to do that she must do for herself by herself. No one can show her who she is or what she is made of but herself. Maybe you think you can hold up the mirror for her to gaze into, but that mirror can also be turned upon you as well. The best option would be to let her bring herself to her own mirrors as you deal with your own. We each have our own skelletons in our closets and our own baggage and regrets or memories. The past has to be resolved and faced if there is to be a healthy present or future. Know that the past does not have to dictate the future. The past can give guidance and help but it does not have to control your destiny.

At this stage of what is happening, friendship may in fact be more valuable and helpful to her needs than a complicated, emotionaly complex relationship layered with a checkered past and regrets and old wounds that might be re-opened. While you may have pointed out that this other guy may be a possessive, assertive jerk, you don't want to be known as the smothering, over-protective, desperate, needy ex-husband either.

The burden of these events is really on your ex-wife. She has to make some difficult decisions about her immediate future and will need a strong, stable, reliable support system of close friends and especially family around her.

Akshay · Joined: 12 Feb 2011 Posts: 14

Hi Rachel,

Thank you so much for your reply and your valuable insight. I know you have been busy and have been waiting patiently for your reply.

Everything you said is correct. She is going through a harder time then me. I am willing to be her friend and support her through this as a friend and have told her this. However, I am extremely lonely and in need of companionship. I have been alone for 8 years waiting for her.

I really wanted to know if the cards reveal if I would find a soul mate in the near future because I cannot go on like this. I am getting older and want someone in my life. This is my priority.

My support and friendship to my ex is unconditional and I will provide it even if she does not accept me and/or if I find someone else.

Regards,

Akshay

Akshay · Joined: 12 Feb 2011 Posts: 14

Hi Rachel,

Thank you for your detailed reply last month. I have taken your advice on board and have taken a step back from my ex wife whilst letting her know that I am here to support her as a friend and will be there for her no matter what decisions she makes in life. I was hoping you could read the cards for me and let me know when I am likely to find my soul mate. I am very lonely and have never felt the need for someone as much as I do now.

Regards,

Akshay

RachelMcLeod · Posted: Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:31 pm Post subject: Reply from Rachel

Hello,

For your November reading I will go to my Rider-Waite deck for insights and indications.

1. King of Wands
2. The High Priestess
3. 5 of Pentacles
4. The Chariot
5. 3 of Wands
6. 10 of Cups
7. 8 of Swords
8. 5 of Pentacles
9. Page of Cups
10. Ace of Cups

The cards indicate pretty clearly to me anyway that there is positive energy entering into your life that is concerned with building, creative, and constructing things. I see indications of a new relationship but there is no indication of time mentioned just yet. I would suspect the summer months of 2013 being the most active but I can't guarentee anything. The signs are very early at this stage. I see new communication and messages concerning friendships and acquaintances and some of this communciation may lead to developments that are favorable as well as unexpected. I see a need to be adaptable and willing to make quick adjustments. I see a need to be flexible in thinking and a willingness to not overlook a number of possibilities. It is possible that among those you might overlook, is someone who would closely resemble a soulmate or a person able to support your needs.

Be attentive to those that circulate around you and make some effort to step outside your usual environment. A change in locale once in a while might make a big difference. The more visible you are, the more chances you have of attracting someone who finds you.

Take a more direct and personal interest in finding your soulmate. Be willing to invest in your own well-being first though so that when you can make an impression on someone, it is an honest impression and a better impression. Give to yourself first before you become a burden for another.

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