Joined: 13 Aug 2018
|Posted: Mon Aug 13, 2018 2:03 am Post subject: How to manifest more quickly?
|Sorry if this is a little long..I am a foster parent currently with a placement of 2 girls (3 and 5) I love them more than I thought possible, but realistically, I don't know how else to describe it.. but our energies are not a good match. As much as I love them, I know we are not good for each other, especially with the 5 year old testing me 24/7 for the past 7 months, it's pretty exhausting. And the 3 year old is slowly becoming the 5 year old (always testing, never listening, always crying/screaming) and some days I feel drained before I make it out of bed. I have had other difficult placements, even harder than these girls, but they never drained me.. but as I said, the energy is just not good. Doable, but not good. I am willing to do anything for these girls, but I just can't help feeling that they need something different.
So they have an aunt who is working to get them, and is doing everything she needs to do. This should have taken 2 weeks, but it has been 2 months so far because everyone is moving slow, and issues came up that got resolved. So they should be leaving very soon when the process is finished (estimated 2 weeks or more.. which can easily turn into another 2 months..)
On the other side, we met another foster parent couple who had 2 little boys, (10 months and 3) and we fell in love with them instantly. They have a few problems, but the energy.. just felt so great! That was about 2 months ago, and when talking to a person from our agency the happened to mention that they had 2 little boys who were about to be adoptable and asked if we would be interested in them, and coincidentally it happened to be those same little boys!
We cannot take them in right now because of these 2 girls, and we have to hope that they cant find another potential adoptive family before they leave in order to get the chance to adopt them.
So regardless, our girls will be going with their aunt, we are just waiting for the process to be completed.
And these little boys will be in need of a potential adoptive home.
I am looking for tips on how I can help manifest this process to move a little quicker than it has. I have been trying to generally manifest the process to move quicker because I just feel like it is getting harder everyday. As much as I love them, I would rather be devastated and heart broken over them leaving, than to be genuinely happy they are gone. And now that these potential boys are in the picture, I don't want to miss the chance to adopt them because it took them a few days too long to move the girls.
I am fully aware that cases change and adoption may not be the way this ends, but it just feels like these boys are meant to be in some way, whether for a short placement or forever.
I know that if the girls would have left during the original timeline, we would have had another placement by now and the idea of adopting the boys would be out of the picture. So all in all, it was a blessing in disguise, but I just don't want to miss it because they take too long.
Any tips will help! Maybe just the simple fact that these boys are involved will make my intentions stronger, but any tips would be so very much appreciated!